When I attended advanced training for my certification, I was with a group of women who I had never met before. I didn’t have any preconceived notions of who they were, what their style was or how they wore their hair and/or makeup. When each of us were directed to try a brighter lip color—each one of us balked! I thought the color was too much for me. Red! RED! Every time I looked in the mirror, all I saw were these bright lips. I couldn’t see my eyes; couldn’t see my hair; I couldn’t see anything but my lips. As I turned to my classmates, they were also wearing red. I thought they looked fabulous. Funny, but each one of them was balking at the bright color themselves.

This probably happens to you when you try a new look—hairstyle, fashion, makeup, etc. The first thing you say is, “Oh, this isn’t me.” This is a natural reaction. But if you truly want to do something different, you have to be willing to stretch the envelope. You have to be willing to be uncomfortable—at least for a little while.

How do you stretch the envelope? Try a new look three times before you give up. Whether it is a new color or a new style, your brain will immediately tell you that “something isn’t right.” If your brain rebels, put the look away for at least 24 hours. Then try it on again. Do it three times over the period of a week. If you don’t like it after the third try, then go ahead and return it.

Even if you return it, applaud yourself for trying. And keep trying. Do it until your brain no longer objects to trying new things.